Can I stick with it?

For those of you who know me, I had a baby almost 9 months ago. During my pregnancy, I was diagnosed with Gestational Diabetes. I was extremely upset about it. The idea of pricking my finger at least 4 times a day and the added risks to my unborn child. Well, turns out it was a blessing in disguise. I gained a whopping 16 lbs the entire pregnancy. I walked out of the hospital with the only signs of pregnancy being a baby. I was in my pre-pregnancy jeans the next day and felt amazing. It was a pain to keep track of everything that I ate, and it was doubly hard to figure out what I could eat when I went out to eat. I discovered a really good eating regimen for lunches at work through this time, and an affordable one to boot! I simply used the plate method (1/4 protein, 1/4 starch, 1/2 veggies) and plugged in complex carbs and lean meats. Meals for a week would look like this:

Monday:

Spicy black bean burger
Birds Eye Steamfresh mixed veggies
Sweet potato (light butter and a little cinnamon)

I would swap out the veggies for different mixes, and the starch would sometimes be a brown rice with veggies mix. Steamfresh became a staple of my daily meals. I bought a container of a Kroger brand “Mrs. Dash” to season with. How was it affordable?

1 bag of veggies was good for 2 lunches (roughly $2)
1 bag of rice/other starch was good for 2 meals (roughly $2)
1 box of spicy black bean burgers was 4 meals (roughly $4)

So dollar wise, your looked at $3 a meal. Meals for a week if I subbed a leftover protein from home one day would cost around $12. That’s a great price to eat on a budget, and healthy meals to boot!

Well fast forward 9 months and I have not done a good job of eating well and keeping fit. It’s time to change that. I am starting today…starting fresh with a good breakfast, a lunch as I described above and an equally healthy dinner to plan. Jeff is on board, and that makes it so much easier to behave when home. I know I can do this, I have done it before, and it isn’t a diet, it’s getting back to eating what I know is good for my family and myself.

How’s that for a mid-year resolution? Eat well, work out and feel better!!

NIP

Some of you may wonder what that stands for…. others may already know. It stands for nursing in public. It’s an abbreviation used on forums about breastfeeding. A video was shared on the Le Leche League forum that I watched today that was so powerful to me, that I felt like I needed to write this. I need to get my thoughts on “paper” and maybe, just maybe, someone would read this and re-evaluate how they view NIP, at the least give it a thought.

Breastfeeding is a subject near and dear to me, and the education of today’s society on it is very important. It’s a subject that is surrounded by plenty of controversy with “mommy wars” being fueled daily with “breast is best” slogans and “my child was fed formula and they turned out fine” comments. Mostly, I stay out of this. Although I do feel that breastfeeding is far superior to formula and that if a mom can breastfeed, she should. There is obviously a need for formula as there are cases where a mother cannot (realistically a VERY small percentage – but it does happen as I know someone personally who could not) or shouldn’t. Just take a look at the scorecard that the US received from the CDC for 2012. It’s appalling that such stats exist on breastfeeding and that the CDC actually has to campaign to increase the number of breastfed babies.

Anyway, back to NIP. I would love to walk into a room full of people and ask for a show of hands on who would be offended or embarrassed by a woman nursing her baby in public. I would not be surprised to see a large percentage of hands raised. But then, I would pose the question – who would be offended by a woman wearing a low-cut shirt with sizable cleavage? How many hands would be raised? I dare say nothing close to the previous question. In this over sexed society, the simple act of feeding a child the way that we were intended to be fed has become a lewd act that has caused mothers to be treated with terrible disrespect. There are stories of mothers being kicked out of restaurants, asked to leave stores, even You read the stories all the time how a mother was treated as though she were acting like a stripper while breastfeeding. Let’s be honest, people see more on a commercial for an upcoming blockbuster than you would see from a woman nursing her child.

This is not a battle that needs to be fought, yet woman are fighting it daily. What is wrong with a society that sees nothing wrong with a bikini clad 13 yr old on an Abercrombie wall, but wants to persecute a mother feeding her child?

Since I am on baby #2 with breastfeeding, I have found it somewhat liberating to not really care where I feed him these days. It has taken almost 3 yrs for me to feel comfortable feeding my baby at the table while we eat dinner out in a restaurant. When I was pregnant with #1 I did not ever think that would happen. There is an enormous mix of emotion that surrounds NIP for me… frustration, anger, sadness… those are with society. Then there is the simple satisfaction that my child is having his needs met in the most natural way possible. Should I feel uncomfortable? Should I be ashamed to expose my breast to feed my child? NO. Am I? At times, yes. It is a sad day that mothers have to feel this way. And the fact that only 3 yrs ago I was one of the woman who felt like breastfeeding should be done in the privacy of your own home makes me so regretful. In my life, there is only a small circle of woman who breastfeed, and only a couple that would ever NIP. I hope for the day that this changes. I hope to be a part of that change. Each time I NIP now I hope that some mother who is embarrassed to do so sees me, and feels a little glimmer of hope that she can do the same.

Here is the video that prompted this post… it is powerful to me and I hope that it is to others.

Just a note: in case you are not aware of some of what she is referring to – formula companies were going into third world countries (without clean water sources and little to no income) and pushing formula as superior breast milk. Mothers would stop or not nurse, causing their milk to dry up and then be unable to provide safe or enough food for their babies.

Update on the kiddos

I have failed to do much updating on our new family member. I have really found that having an infant and a 2 yr old is quite challenging. It is so incredibly rewarding and incredibly trying. I am very blessed to have the children that I do. All 4 of them! So here is a little update on the younger 2.

Ashton: 2 yrs old

He is really starting to seem so much less a baby, and more a little man. It’s bittersweet for me. Of course, he will always be my baby, but he is growing so fast! He really enjoys music, and playing with his cars. He is always doing something, hardly ever sitting in one spot. His speech is becoming very clear, with us understanding most of what he says.

Ashton’s funny phrases:
He has begun prefacing his responses with ‘oh’, it’s quite comical.
instead of ‘I’ he inserts ‘my’. i.e – my do that!
his older brother has him running around saying “never!” only he doesn’t get that v in there so it’s coming out closer to ne’er!
He loves music, and requests that I sing certain songs, but doesn’t join in much. He requests – Twinkle Twinkle Little Star, Three Blind Mice, Itsy Bitsy Spider and Row, Row, Row Your Boat. He also is getting into music that we listen to. His favorites are Imagine Dragons – Radioactive, Bad to the Bone, and Boys ‘Round Here by Blake Shelton.

His is such a smart little boy, and still very much loves his schedule! He loves to wake up in the mornings and snuggle in bed before getting up. And if his baby brother is awake, his first priority is to love on him and play with him. :) He is still a bit rambunctious with him and I have to keep a close eye, but it’s so comforting to see that he has grown to love his little brother so much!
Ashton’s sense of humor has always amazed me. He is already capable of playing jokes on people, and it’s honestly funny!
He loves his family so much. He has found what he needs and wants with each family member. His relationship with each one is very unique. It’s so much fun when we do things as a family and how he interacts with all of us.
And then there is his grandparents! He loves them sooo much. He has started listing them all lately. There is nothing that makes him more happy than to get to my mom’s house in the mornings and his grandpa is up and ready to play with him.

Brantley:

At 7 months this little guy has taken our house by storm. He started rolling around 4 months I think, and has.not.stopped. Seriously, he is crawling, pulling up and trying to stand on his own. At his 6 mo appointment his pediatrician mentioned that she believes he will be an early walker. We could tell very early on that he was ready to start playing and running with his older brother. He would sit on your lap and just flap his little arms as hard as he could and pull towards the floor and his brother.
He is the most friendly little baby, talking to who ever will stop and take a moment to have a conversation with him.

He is such an awesome little nursling and has made that part of our lives so easy on me. He has made it into our bed, and although I really don’t mind, it’s a little tough since Ashton is still there.
Brantley is a very happy baby. He always has time for a smile. And of course, he makes everyone around him smile!
He has had some first tastes of food, and has not been really interested in it until the last few days.

So far:
avocado
sweet potato
banana
peaches
potato

ETA: How could I forget that the first food that Brantley actually seemed to like was a pickle. Go figure, right?

I am curious to see what ends up being his favorite foods. Ashton’s was avocado and that kid will still eat a whole one!

Well that is a short update on the little ones. ANd I thought I would do a little update on the older 2 as well. It seems that the older that Ashton gets, the more I am taken back to when Hannah and Garrett were little!!

Hannah is growing into quite a young woman. She is beautiful and smart. Of course, she is a typical 13 yr old. ;) She is an avid texter lol. It amazes me how quick she picks up on techy things, that her whole generation is growing up learning all of the new smart devices. Hannah is going into the 8th grade, and after this year I fear will not seem like a little girl anymore. Another bittersweet moment. She loves to dance and sing, has a good group of friends and thoroughly enjoys school (for the schoolwork right??? lol).

Garrett has become an awesome young man in the last couple of years. Of course, he was always awesome ;), but the level of maturity that he shows sometimes just blows me away. This kid is so active, and seems to excel at any sport he plays. Baseball is his favorite and he is very serious about playing. Garrett will be starting 5th grade this fall, I cannot believe it will be his last year in elementary school. It seems like just yesterday he was a little white-haired 3 yr old looking at us and asking “Did you say?”.

The years pass quick, and I hope to savor the moments with these 4 as long as I can. I am so blessed to have 4 wonderful children in my life and look forward to all that the future holds!
Here is Mr. Brantley with Cindy bear at Jellystone park… he really knows no stranger!

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And here is what Jeff received for Father’s Day this year :)

Fathers day 2013

Making memories

I had always wanted to be that mom that chronicled her kids growing up. I started a baby book for Ashton – I think I updated it a few months ago after it sat for about, oh, a year. I have one for Brantley, too. I did put some facts in there while on maternity leave. So needless to say I have not been “on the ball” with my mommy goal. So why not use this blog to record those memories?? Why, yes, I think I will.

Right now Ashton is 2 1/2 yrs old. Did I mention that he potty trained right before his 2nd birthday? I seriously never thought that would happen, but man, oh man, am I glad that I don’t have 2 in diapers.

His current food likes are:

popcorn (pop hum)
raisins
broccoli with balsamic vinegar
chocolate
yogurt raisins

What’s he saying? Lots! Only we don’t always understand everything. But the ones we do….

A for Ashton
M for Mommy
D for Daddy
G for Garrett
H for Hannah
B for Brantley

He has graduated from calling every vehicle a “hun” to cars, trucks, trains. He LOVES to play with his cars and specifically any truck that has a trailer attached. He is also counting to 3. Hey, I will take that from a 2 yr old!
Now I would be if I failed to mention that he is being quite challenging lately. He is full into the terrible 2s. We regularly get told no, and even have that fun word yelled at us. He is such a good kid, so I am hoping this is a rough patch for his age and having to deal with a new baby brother.

Now for Brantley – 3 months already!! The time is flying and I find myself noticing things he is doing much faster than I did with Ashton. He started good belly laughs the other night. We caught it on video – score! It was adorable. He really wants to roll over but isn’t quite there yet. He is such a good sleeper. I get good 3-5 hour stretches most nights, and that my friends, is golden. Ashton didn’t sleep through the night until he was almost 2!! Brantley is also starting to grab things and hold things. Ahhhh… the cuteness of a little one growing! I am loving having such an easy little guy around the house.

We are cloth diapering, but it’s only during the day. THis little guy is a heavy wetter and I just haven’t braved a night-time in cloth yet. Now that he is getting into his one-size diapers I may attempt it. We shall see. I have finally gotten my hands on some cute cloth diapers as well, so that is fun! I am also attempting cloth wipes. I really like them so far. It takes less wipes and it makes me feel better about what I am putting on my baby’s bottom. I just cut up a couple of old t-shirts and threw them in an empty wipe container. I put the wipe solution in the peri bottle I brought home from the hospital and made my own solution. Mine was simple:

Water – filled up to almost the top
Burt’s Bees baby wash – about 1 1/2 tsp
Burt’s Bees baby oil about 1 1/2 tsp
tea tree oil 3-4 drops

We are still on track with the picture project as well. I have done surprisingly well with getting his pictures taken. I think I am going to add Ashton in as well since I have always wanted to track his growth. I can’t wait to see how it all turns out! Kids don’t stay in one place, and they don’t stop growing!! :)

oh Baby!

Well, Brantley made his appearance – and if how he did that is any indication of what his personality is going to be we are sooo in for it! :) Let’s just say that his birth was movie worthy. From the nonchalant starts of labor to the gurney being rushed through the halls while staff is yelling “don’t push!” to the beautiful baby. I will share my birth story at some point, it’s a doozy. I couldn’t have asked for a better experience for my last child.
He nursed great from the start and has been such a good baby. He was smiling from about week 4! And he gives me good stretches of sleep, too. I am so thankful for that and need to start taking advantage of it by getting some things accomplished at night. Now he is 8 weeks and I am actually on board with documenting hs growth. I was afraid I wouldn’t stay on top of things, but I am and I will throughout the year. The idea to document weekly came from my favorite blog – younghouselove. They did this with their daughter and I loved the idea so much I am doing some copy-catting. Here is one of Brantley’s pics – this is 4 weeks.

4 weeks

Thanks to our wonderful family, we were able to purchase a new camera and I am hoping to develop a loving relationship with it real soon so we can have some amazing pics of this little stinker.

Week 34/35 preggo update

I really can’t believe I am this far along! Time is flying by and I am just trying to keep up. So how are things now… well, uncomfortable. I had an amazing second trimester, super easy on me. But the third tri is making up for it as I fully expected.

How do I feel?

I am tired a lot, and all of those familiar aches and pains of relaxin doing it’s job are starting up. I have been sleeping surprisingly well for the most part with some bad nights here and there. Thank goodness that Ashton has decided to start sleeping better!! And daddy taking him to bed has been the biggest relief to me lately…it gives me a little time in the evenings to just chill out and relax.

This little guy might have his brother beat on kicking…he kicks a lot and HARD. Although, he is not up in my rib cage like Ashton was. Instead, he seems to like to stretch with legs and arms…let me tell you this is not a pleasant feeling. Surprisingly though, I enjoy all of it. I know this is my last, and I am enjoying all that I can of it!!

Am I prepared?

Well mentally, I am getting there. Luckily, my sister-in-law is going to be my “doula”. She is reading books and trying to be prepared as well…we are also getting together to talk about things so that she knows how I feel about things and can help be my advocate. I am trying to prepare myself with techniques to manage the pain. For me it will just be wrapping my mind around it. Once I can get to a good place with the contractions I will be able to cope for sure. At least this time I have figured out that I need to read more about how to actively manage my laboring. So I am getting there.. a few more weeks to go so I still have time to get my head in the game. Of course, that could all go out the window anyway lol… no one really knows what it’s going to be like.

Am I ready in all other ways?? NO. The house is a wreck – and I am in nesting mode so it’s about to drive me crazy!! My mom is going to come over and help me get things in order, and I am sooo thankful for that!! It’s going to be keeping it there that is the challenge, as well. I have almost all of the clothes ready, but I still need to find some of them..feels like I am missing stuff?? Odd. Carrier – check, co-sleeper – check, baby clothes check, nursing wear – check, diapers – uumm, almost check. We have some cloth, but we are going to need some disposables too I am sure. I still have time, but I have this pressing feeling that time is going to run out!!

I have not even packed my hospital bag. I have a couple of things ready to go in, but actually packing it just keeps getting put off. I know, your saying I still have lots of time! But with my list, I need to get the easy stuff checked off quick! One day at a time is the way I am rolling now.

The gestational diabetes is getting old… I am coping well and doing a good job keeping up with it. Even the doctor was impressed with how well I have been tracking. I was a little surprised at that, after all, it’s not really just my health, it’s my baby’s. I am so ready for a big piece of cake, or a roll, or brown sugar on my sweet potato. The silver lining in it? I have not gained weight, as in maybe 2 lbs since I was diagnosed. Last pregnancy I gained 50+ lbs… all the while eating well and working out at least 2 times a week. I also swelled like crazy. This time I have to say that the only negative part is the GD. No swelling, minimal weight gain, little to no real side effects of pregnancy. :)

As of now the OB office I go to is not wanting any interventions. I am hoping it stays that way. I do not agree with interventions. They are 9/10 unneeded and have negative effects on the labor and delivery. I trust nature to do its thing and will go with the flow. I just don’t want to fight them for my rights, and with as natural child-birth friendly this hospital is, I am hoping that won’t be an issue. One good piece of news that he shared last visit was that they now have a labor tub in the L&D in the hospital. Great news!!! I have heard so many women swear by laboring in water. I’m hoping it helps me too!

So there you have it… slowly getting there. I can feel him growing and don’t be surprised if my “He’s here!” announcement comes before my due dates!!

Week 28/29 another preggo update

Well, I think it might be time for another update, and an addition to my “journal” for this pregnancy.

I am at week 29 day 2 (according to my cycle dates), my doctor’s office still has me a week behind that.

Overall – I am just starting to really feel pregnant. This little guy is so active. And he keeps spinning around…which Ashton didn’t do all too much. Ashton was head down for a good while, and this little guy is all over the place. I’m not sure which I prefer, lol, the 2+ months of being kicked in the same ribs or the random kicks all over the place. He is quickly running out of space though, so hopefully he will spin to head down and stay that way soon.

I am just now having trouble getting comfortable sleeping – and that is crazy to me considering we have an almost 2 yr old in bed with us still. And bending down to put on shoes has officially become a chore. No cravings still, but then I eat a good balanced diet and I feel that I am getting pretty much all I need for my nutrients. Although an increase in potassium would be good since I woke up with a killer charley horse this morning!!! Ugh. I avoided those almost completely last pregnancy by eating bananas pretty regular.

I not so happy turn of events is that I have been diagnosed with gestational diabetes(GD). I was devastated. I kept thinking: I could have eaten better, I could have exercised, I could have done something to prevent this!!! Well, the fact of the matter is, there is no concrete proof as to why a woman develops GD. Thank goodness for my best friend and her choosing to be a Registered Dietician!!! I immediately contacted her and she got me straight. She told me how to track, what to track and how to manage this. I also met with a dietician here as per my doctor’s request. Truth be told, I didn’t need to, but it didn’t hurt. I have known for years now how to eat right and take care of myself, but GD is a whole new ball game!

I have to test my blood glucose levels 4 times a day and ensure I keep within my carb counts for each meal and snack. It’s a pain in the butt, and I will be glad when I don’t have to watch and log everything. But the bright side of that is I am controlling my weight gain pretty well. My main concern is this little guy I am growing – I do not want him to be negatively affected by anything that I do or eat. So as much as it stinks, I will follow my diet to a T and make sure he stays healthy. The only downfall is that if my hormones decide to not cooperate with me on this, despite a perfect diet and good excercise, I still may not be able to control my blood glucose levels and will require medications or possibly insulin. Crossing my fingers!!!

Preparation for this baby is slowly happening. I have purchased some newborn cloth diapers and they are so dang cute!!!! They seriously look like baby doll diapers. I hope to rotate through them as much as possible and minimize disposables. But let’s face it… breastfed babies poop A LOT in the beginning. I will get some one size diapers as well(besides Ashton’s) for when he grows out of the newborns. I may even get a few in small and medium. I guess we shall see what works when he gets here.

I have the crib together, but that isn’t going to be used until he is out of the co-sleeper. Let’s hope I can use it this time, we won’t know until we see what kind of sleeper this little guy is. It was survival that put and kept Ashton in our bed. Seriously, when you have to wake up 3-4 times every night for, well, years, you have to do what works. I still have to pull all of our baby gear out of my mom’s attic and clean it up. I still have time for that though. Almost all of the clothes are sorted and actually organized this time around. It’s slowly coming together.

I am really anxious to meet this baby. I am having such a different experience this pregnancy. Last time I was very focused on the pregnancy and birth that I wasn’t thinking about what it would be like once the baby was actually here. Odd, I know, but that’s where I was. This time I know that I need to focus on birth and this little guy being a part of our family. I am so curious about his personality, who he will be!

Well, that about covers things at this point. Time is passing quickly(first day of school tomorrow!!!) and we are all doing really well!! :)

Week 22/23 Update

Ok, I suppose it’s time for an update. I intend to start doing this at least every two weeks for a while. I had wanted to chronicle my progress during this pregnancy through my blog, but alas, haven’t had the motivation to do so. Thanks morning sickness!! But I think I can do it now. I had the strangest side effect of morning sickness – I love to read blogs, but every time I would open one, I would feel so sick. It was extremely odd. lol Now I am over that and back at it! And be forewarned, there might be a bit of TMI in this post. If you are squeamish or just not interested in pregnancy stuff, feel free to skip this one!

I have to post 22/23 because my doctor’s office has me at 22 weeks, but according to my calculations from important dates I am 23 weeks. I am keeping track for my own purposes, it’s in my favor that they have me later. I do not want pressure to induce if I go over that estimated due date. I want this baby to stay in as long as he needs to. I am sure when I get close I will be more than ready to be done, but it’s not all about me!

So how is this pregnancy going? Really good!!! I am in the second trimester and in the glory days of pregnancy. I feel good, have pretty good energy, can eat most anything and rarely feel ill. I even have energy to work on projects around the house (so long as the power is cooperating!!).

What I’m noticing:

Baby is moving quite a bit at times, and he is strong! I guess I will have another active little monster like I did with Ashton, lol.

I seem to be carrying this little guy low, it’s an odd feeling.

I do have bouts of fatigue, seems to me to be more of an iron deficiency maybe. Time to evaluate my diet.

I have no cravings really, but this doesn’t surprise me much. I never craved anything with Ashton either. I eat a fairly good diet and keep a variety of foods. I think the only thing that I want more often is sushi (which I AM eating this time, in moderation and only certain types from one restaurant that I fully trust their product).

No swelling just yet, it would be nice to avoid this through the summer. I intend to wear support hose if needed (per my bf’s advice last pregnancy, so should have listened to her) and would like to avoid that in the heat.

My pants are officially not fitting – maternity pants are what I am wearing most. Although as I type this I am wearing some capris that I am keeping secured by looping a hair band through the button holes and looping over the button. Neat trick for wearing your pants longer. And thanks to some tutorials, I have made several of my own maternity bottoms on the cheap. I will be posting pics and links to the tutorials soon over at wherelovemeetslife soon.20120711-105056.jpg

I have been a little crampy at times with this one. I am sure that is due to chasing a toddler, and honestly forgetting I am pregnant at times. I need to take it easy sometimes.

I am feeling a strong desire to prepare myself mentally for this birth. I have even been doing practice breathing and calming techniques. I want to be prepared, and I want to feel like my coping strategy is in place and ready when the time comes.

I am writing a “cliff notes” guide to natural childbirth for Jeff. I figure, if he has an idea of what he can do to help me, it will make things easier on him, too. I know I would hate to stand around feeling useless, and he knows better than to fill his time during labor on his cell phone…. so I will give him pointers and a guide.

I didn’t show as soon as I expected that I would with this one. I have always heard your second pregnancy you show a little earlier. Not in my case! I started showing around 20-21 weeks – last time it was really close to the same. It may have been closer to 24 weeks last time, but really, 4 weeks isn’t that big of a difference to me at this point.

I have a strong feeling I am going to have this baby around October 26-31st. Hannah’s birthday is the 28th, mine is the 26th. I wanted to avoid having another birthday so close, but no dice! My edd are 11/5/12 and 11/11/12(which would be a cool birthday). So either way, we are going to have close birthdays. Oh well, can’t win em all.

So that is about it for now. I have busy work days coming up and a family vacation. Time is going to fly by. And once I can get some pictures, I will be updating everyone on some projects I have been working on in the last month.

Hope everyone is having a wonderful summer so far!

Are YOU mom enough?

To realize that the “mommy wars” being fueled in the media are doing nothing to help women, babies, or families in general.

I could not resist writing something about this. After all, it’s creating quite the stir. I have seen some really heated debates on this and it makes me sad and angry at the same time. Do I believe in breastfeeding? Yup. Do I believe in extended breastfeeding? I sure do now. Do I follow attachment parenting? Um, I wouldn’t really consider my parenting style attachment parenting, even if it follows some of the same lines. Do I feel the Time article furthered information that breastfeeding is good for children and that studies show that extended breastfeeding is even better? NO!!! This article did bring the subject to light, and it has spurred lots of discussions on the subject – ultimately allowing more people to be educated in this area. But it has also spurred a lot of arguments that are very counter-productive to what a “lactivist” would really wish to accomplish.

Do moms really need another topic to feel judged, and that they may not “measure up”? I ask a lot of questions, because I feel that everyone should ask this of themselves when they get involved in some of the debates. I have heard some pretty mean and hateful things said in result of this cover. It never ceases to amaze me the lack of knowledge that people spread about subjects they have no real understanding of. More to the point though, is the insanity of people being horribly harsh with one another – possibly complete strangers – over an article in a magazine that was put out to incite just that! I actually had to stop reading comments, because if I read another “that’s just sick” or “extended breastfeeding is for the benefit of the mother” comment I think my head would explode. Really people??? lol Just ask a nursing momma, I can promise that it is NOT for their benefit, well unless you are referring to the fact that nursing will quiet a fussy, in pain, teething baby faster than a shot of whiskey. (no, I don’t give Ashton Jack Daniels when he is teething, lol) Well, that’s for everyone’s benefit now, isn’t it?? There is nothing, and I mean, NOTHING, sexually arousing about nursing a child.

The mother on the cover is a member of a forum I frequent and I follow a blog she writes. She is a strong woman who is doing what she feels is right for her family. She in NO way wants to stir the pot. Her own admissions of that cover photo was that the shot was caught while changing positions, and it seems she is not altogether happy with how the shot was used. Let’s face it, anyone who nurses an older child knows that this is not the typical position for nursing. LOL I actually get a little bit of a kick out of it just for that reason. There were 4 families involved in this photo shoot, and the article was about attachment parenting and Dr. Sears. I am interested in reading the article myself, but I refuse to put any money in the pockets of Time for it.

The moral of my post? Stop the mommy wars, stop buying into the hype and the media induced “stoning” of people who don’t agree with your views. Does that mean that I have to agree with others? No. But does that mean that I should berate them and call them pedophiles because of the way they choose to raise their children? No.

I could post lots of quotes from WHO (World Health Organization), UNICEF, LLL or the AAP on recommendations on proper nutrition of a child, but the fact is, each family must make that decision on what works for them. I do look forward to a day and time when breastfeeding is the norm.. but until then – I will continue to do what works for my family, support any woman who wants help in breastfeeding, and try and convey as much knowledge (limited that I have) to anyone who is interested in hearing it.

How we told the kids the big news

We figured the kids should be the first ones to know the big news since we are expanding the house they live in too. I wasn’t sure how they would react, since Ashton was born our home has been so different from the past. I am sure this new arrival will change things even more. We decided to give them a riddle, and see if they could figure it out. I settled on a picture riddle, and made something up real quick on Publisher.

I could tell by Hannah’s face that she thought she had figured it out pretty quickly, but was afraid she was wrong. :) Garrett caught on right after! They were sooooo excited! I couldn’t have been happier with their response. What a relief! They both want a girl…. I’m thinking it’s a girl, too. I guess we will find out in 7 months!!

I have decided on a way to chronicle this pregnancy. I will start posting the progression as I have a few more pictures!! :)

***Just for clarification – the blue and pink heart signify one or the other… no, we are NOT expecting twins. Although I have not been for my first sono, they do not run in our families and we do not foresee that as an issue.